My oldest brother did that with kids, he's like just dealing with his wife now cause they have 2 kids, kids don't solve problems. It sucks but if you unhappy and can't be you, gotta leave or it'll get worse. Another brother settled with his wife and she's just a miserable person to be around, literally drains your energy.
Thank god me and the wife found each other, were friends for a few years, decided to give it a try after both of us got out of bad relationships. Built a unbreakable bond from healing up together from the accident, been through a lot already and continue to grow. And i can relax and be myself and enjoy the things I like and want to do still.